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发帖数: 141625 | 1 【 以下文字转载自 Connecticut 讨论区 】
发信人: wh (wh), 信区: Connecticut
标 题: Guidance for helping kids process scary information and images（ZZ）
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Sat Dec 15 00:42:33 2012, 美东)
http://www.skills4living.net/2012/12/14/guidance-for-helping-ki
There really aren’t words to comfort any of us as we try to digest the
senseless violence that happened today at Sandy Hook Elementary School.
However, we must be prepared to support our kids who have been exposed to
the terror- whether it be online, word of mouth from friends, or in the news.
Let me be clear: These thoughts are directed only toward kids far removed
from the tragedy. Kids who live in or near Newtown, CT should seek the
guidance of a mental health professional.
Turn off the news.
Young children are not able to decipher news that is happening in their own
world from news that is happening far away. Protect them from the terrifying
images and sound bites as much as possible.
Be aware of your child’s feelings
Take inventory of your child’s emotional state- is she shut down,
anxious, quiet, extra energetic?
Don’t assume what kids are feeling… rather, ask what’s on their mind.
If a child brings up the school shooting, explore feelings with open
ended questions:
What have you heard?
What do you think about this news?
How are other kids feeling about this?
Listen, with empathy and understanding, to your child’s reactions and
feelings.
There are many “OK” ways for kids to react to difficult news and
information. Some kids are talkers, and some simply aren’t. Many kids will
seem unaffected.
Reassure kids of their own safety, the safety of their school, and the
safety of their family.
Respect kids’ feelings. Don’t try to redirect or “cheer kids up.”
Some kids will want to become involved- offering to help, send gifts or
cards, while others will keep their distance or seem indifferent.
Be aware of YOUR feelings
Kids can feel our feelings… tone of voice, body language, and
conversations with other adults
What kids don’t understand, they will finish in their heads… and it is
likely not even close to reality. Be very aware of conversations that are
taking place about the shooting around our children.
Some details are unnecessary
Kids need to trust that the adults they love will give them the
information they need. It’s OK to not have all of the answers.
Give direct, truthful responses, but keep answers brief and age-
appropriate. “You heard about a very sad situation in Connecticut. Kids and
grownups were hurt very badly. That happened far away from here. You are
safe at your school.”
My heart is very much with all who have been touched by this terrible
tragedy. As the mom of a kindergartener and the daughter of a kindergarten
teacher, my brain simply can not begin to process it. | wh
发帖数: 141625 | 2 美国人非常注意保护孩子的心理，想得很周到细心。
我觉得在小孩可以接受的情况下，还是适当跟小孩说一下万一发生这种事情如何应对，
不要发呆，要尽量保护自己，或逃或躲，或把坏人堵在门外，或者趴在地上躲避子弹。
我孩子还积极补充了一条装死。我说好，不忍心说v tech那学生给倒在地上的人也补了
枪。还是要让孩子对自己的安全和保护能力有信心。就像地震火灾要教小孩怎样应对，
看来这种恶性事件也要预防了。虽然人命在天，有准备还是比没准备强一点。当然要看
小孩情况再说，如果小孩很敏感就不提了。
祝大家都平安。
news.
【在 wh 的大作中提到】
: 【 以下文字转载自 Connecticut 讨论区 】
: 发信人: wh (wh), 信区: Connecticut
: 标 题: Guidance for helping kids process scary information and images（ZZ）
: 发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Sat Dec 15 00:42:33 2012, 美东)
: http://www.skills4living.net/2012/12/14/guidance-for-helping-ki
: There really aren’t words to comfort any of us as we try to digest the
: senseless violence that happened today at Sandy Hook Elementary School.
: However, we must be prepared to support our kids who have been exposed to
: the terror- whether it be online, word of mouth from friends, or in the news.
: Let me be clear: These thoughts are directed only toward kids far removed
| b*s
发帖数: 82482 | 3 还是要像训练John Conner那样训练才行……
美国人非常注意保护孩子的心理，想得很周到细心。
我觉得在小孩可以接受的情况下，还是适当跟小孩说一下万一发生这种事情如何应对，
不要发呆，要尽量保护自己，或逃或躲，或把坏人堵在门外，或者趴在地上躲避子弹。
我孩子还积极补充了一条装死。我说好，不忍心说v tech那学生给倒在地上的人也补了
枪。还是要让孩子对自己的安全和保护能力有信心。就像地震火灾要教小孩怎样应对，
看来这种恶性事件也要预防了。虽然人命在天，有准备还是比没准备强一点。当然要看
小孩情况再说，如果小孩很敏感就不提了。
祝大家都平安。
news.
【在 wh 的大作中提到】
: 美国人非常注意保护孩子的心理，想得很周到细心。
: 我觉得在小孩可以接受的情况下，还是适当跟小孩说一下万一发生这种事情如何应对，
: 不要发呆，要尽量保护自己，或逃或躲，或把坏人堵在门外，或者趴在地上躲避子弹。
: 我孩子还积极补充了一条装死。我说好，不忍心说v tech那学生给倒在地上的人也补了
: 枪。还是要让孩子对自己的安全和保护能力有信心。就像地震火灾要教小孩怎样应对，
: 看来这种恶性事件也要预防了。虽然人命在天，有准备还是比没准备强一点。当然要看
: 小孩情况再说，如果小孩很敏感就不提了。
: 祝大家都平安。
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